A Little Message for My Fellow Women

If there's one thing I hate about being a woman, it's the assumption that we have to wait for change and wait for what we want.

Can't get married because we have to be proposed to. Load of bull, if you feel like your relationship isn't progressing you propose to your partner. The worst thing that could happen is they say no and if just being together isn't enough for you then it's time to move on.

Can't have kids because you have to wait for a man who wants kids. No, there are so many children who need homes out there. Adoption doesn't have to be a last resort, it can be the key to not only your happiness but the happiness of a child out there who's just waiting for a family to call their own. You can be that for them. Especially older kids who struggle to find families.

Can't have your own business or your own empire because you belong at home with the kids. NO. Hell no. You can have it all. Don't ever forget that. You can be a mother, a business woman, a wife, an innovator, a revolutionary all at the same time and don't let anyone tell you different. If there's one thing we women excel at it's multitasking.

From the time that we're young we're told that we have to depend on a man to take care of us and bring our life meaning. That we're nothing more than baby makers and housewives. Those things are wonderful things to be but that's not all there is to being a woman. There's so much more. This is the time when we can be anything we want and take control of our lives in ways we've only dreamed of before. I urge you to take advantage of it. Fight for it. Because we can't depend on men to fight for us. Yes there are men who want to help and they are appreciated but this is our battle and we have to win. For the generations that come after who will need strong women to look to and inspire them. They deserve better than what we're fighting against every day.

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